Fracking Fringe Friends
I was sitting outside a Starbucks waiting for my daughters and stbx (soon to be ex) to show up – it was our morning to switch care – he had them the night before.
A work acquaintance walking towards the entrance saw me, and walked over to my bench. She smiled and asked, “How’s it going?”
“Fine.” My brief answer because: I didn’t want to talk, and I knew where she would likely go with this conversation, as she was friends of friends who knew about my divorce.
She continued: “You waiting here for your daughters.” (guess she had seen me do this before).
“Yes.” I cringed.
“Must be tough?” she said. She’s a sweet, nice person, but I barely know her – did group work with her once.
“It’s fine, the girls are used to it.”I kept my answer short – but she continued. The questions continued, and I finally figured – oh let me talk about the weather – that will send a message to buggar off the topic. It did.
Fracking friends – like fracking for oil. Breaking into places you’re not naturally invited. I hate it – when I ‘m going through life crisis’s, like when I lost my child, or when something big and bad happens. My close friends know to follow my lead – not ask unless I bring it up. Others – acquaintances wouldn’t dare ask – they just know it’s not their business. But fringe friends – there’s the danger. They think they know enough to get information – and I try to kindly imagine they are just very concerned about the trama, real or imagined. AND I FREAKING HATE THAT.
Best bet: don’t ask, unless you are the closest of friends. Offer a Starbucks
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